The only problem is her escalating interest in the cast of a television show, particularly one male actor.
It began with a minor interest in the show while we were students.
She was going through a rough time personally and began watching; over the years, she has become so obsessed with one of the lead actors that she now spends thousands of dollars to go to conventions across the country, attends related events, and generally finds reasons to be in his neighborhood.
They have “coincidentally” met several times, and he was rude to her on multiple occasions.
Tell her how you would like her to handle being pulled over, and also talk about how “acting compliant” is a course of action that’s most likely to benefit someone already privileged, and that “resisting arrest” or “failure to comply” is often used as after-the-fact justifications of police violence.Regardless of what Anita’s mother thinks, you and your husband should determine whether you can afford (and are willing) to help defray any further costs over the next six weeks, if for no other reason than that you want Anita and her baby to be well.If you cannot afford it, and if you believe it will not put either of them in harm’s way, your best option may be to encourage her to seek resources from the financial assistance center at the hospital where she plans to give birth.We’ve paid Anita’s medical bills and an allowance so Anita didn’t have to work too hard during her final trimester. My husband and I wish Anita well, because we want her baby to succeed, but we also want to sever our relationship with her.She’s due in six weeks, and we discovered by accident that at some point she’d changed her mind. Anita won’t be able to afford the same level of care without our money, and her mother has accused us of being heartless. We can’t afford to support Anita and pursue adoption.