Unless the online dating industry makes a push toward cleaning up their websites, men and women will continue to fall prey to fake profiles.
You Get What You Pay For It seems the “free” membership sites tend to be the ones most likely to have more fake profiles on them.
A Singles’ Dating Convention member sent this to me: “I’ve recently joined a different singles’ site and am running into the same issue I’ve had with the previous ones I’ve been involved in.
It seems that somehow my profile targets only those that are looking for money, or are spam. For example, the other night I got a message from a lady on Plenty Of and responded to her and then she quickly responded giving me her Yahoo screen name to IM her.
They need to make as many contacts as possible—remember it’s a numbers game. You are doing the best you can by being smart and wary of potential fakers. Will enough singles get fed up with the not-so-great state of online dating and demand better from the industry? As a contributor to online dating industry forums, I continue to bring up the issues associated with fake profiles: liars, thieves and cheats, and the accountability of the industry for a solution.
Even if you put on your profile in bold letters, “No Fakers or Sex Industry Professionals,” it won’t help. My suggestion for your first contact, if you’re worried they’re not telling the truth, is to ask them outright. The standard industry reply is that “it’s not cost effective” and that “singles won’t pay for it.” Well, singles are “paying for it” in time, frustration, dissatisfaction and with their wallets.
The unfortunate truth is that the paid singles don’t know who is free and who is not.
Since I need some major help on that front, I reached out to dating and relationship expert Alexis Sclamberg for tips on how to present the real you online (no compromises! Not only do I like to peruse my potential partner’s social media (if they use too many hashtags, it’s a hard no for me), but I like them to have access to my handles as well to get a deeper sense of what I’m about. A clever question on your profile can help intros flow more easily between you and your matches and could also help foster intimacy quickly.
You'll attract relationship-minded people, and only scare off those who are afraid of commitment—which you’d rather find out about sooner than later.
After a little while of chatting and waiting and waiting for responses, My response: Unfortunately, you’re running into the sad situation that is online dating.
Too many women have fake profiles that are used for making money, i.e., directing men to paid porn sites or personal Web sites or just asking men outright for money.