For the record, I am not a fan of the “cougar” phenomenon.
I know, older women dating younger men is all the rage.
Once again, I have to say that of course it’s possible for two people of different ages to fall in love.
Myth: It won’t work because eventually “he’ll cheat on her with someone his own age.” Cougar’s response: Apparently this isn’t necessarily the case. Older women like their freedom, and younger men like that because they’re comfortable in “less traditional” relationships.But when someone tells me that, as a rule, they prefer to date people either vastly older or vastly younger than they are, alarms start going off for me.And when they announce to the world that they’re “cougars,” and that they have no interest in men their own age, but instead choose exclusively to pursue (or, apparently, be pursued by) men young enough to be their sons—well, frankly that just creeps me out. They have nothing to lose by being and showing who they genuinely are. If you cannot say it in person then send a short email. We’ve had plenty experience of raising children, we don’t need to be a mommy to you. Know that many of us are quite experienced in relationships and we know how to treat a good man. We are used to having lots of space in a relationship. Hey men, if you are going to see a woman in another state for the first time, make sure you know what you are doing. If it’s honesty and directness you are seeking, know that many older woman come out way ahead in this area. Pay for her on the first date, even if she offers to pay her share. Don’t say you want to see her again if you are full of sh*t. And don’t do it because you are looking for a mommy. Don’t keep pestering her because it will come to an unhappy conclusion or blocking you from her site. Many of us are confident, used to being alone and on our own, so don’t feel that we want to be with you every minute of the day, because we don’t. Many of us had much experience with BS and we know when it’s coming at us.