I know I need to work on the comfort stage, but I'm looking at the small intangibles here more. You might just have to be a little more direct with girls you're interested in.This is most likely the reason your comming off as intimidating, if your well built and cold, girls will be very intimidated by you.
However, a lot of women will seem hesitant around me and won't be nearly as outgoing with me as they seem with other guys.So, I don't know if it's my lookssort of punk-ish (not sure how to describe my style), I have bright red hair fringed with black and if I have time, I prefer to have thick black eyeliner. You're right, about not wanting to dumb yourself down. Why change who you are, to please others or what you imagine others to desire? Ive heard, if men feel like you dont NEED them, they wont stick around. I used to be a really angry person and couldn't really control that anger. But apparently I'm still intimidating I'm not sure how not to beit's sort of my personality.Or if it's my personalitybecause I'm more masculine/aggressive by nature. That's not the answer, to your current frustrations. You sound like me, my style is different, but the basic intimidating to men is definitely there. Now when i think about it I see my sweet little 7 yr old begin me not to throw a vase she loved I did, it smashed. I think it's more important that I'm not threatening people and getting in very heated disagreements.I asked her what she meant but she refused to answer, telling me only that I should take it as a compliment.We'd just spent an hour talking about our lives in pretty intimate details so this perplexed me.